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The Knot: Experts Say These Are the Only 8 Marriage Tips Couples Need

Austin Tang — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 21:25:13 +0000

Consider these the golden rules.

It goes without saying: Deciding to get married is a huge deal, and there’s no doubt you’d only enter into that commitment with deep love and dedication. Just like any relationship, though—and perhaps more so—you’ll experience ups and downs. So what’s the secret to a happy marriage? And FYI, it’s not about never arguing or taking wow-worthy vacations every year.

Happiness in marriage is a journey that brings many of its own challenges, in addition to the joyous and profound love shared between two people. We asked relationship experts to share their “golden rules” for how to maintain a happy marriage that’ll withstand the test of time.

Meet the Experts:

Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is the best-selling author of In Each Other’s Care
Naomi Angoff Chedd, LMHC is a licensed mental health counselor with Counslr
Leanna Stockard, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist at LifeStance Health
Jaki Silver, LMSW is a licensed master social worker based in New York City.

In this article:

What Is a “Happy Marriage?”

A happy marriage is one where both parties feel fulfilled, appreciated and united as a team taking on life and the world together. There’s an unwavering sense of commitment to each other (even through life’s inevitable trials and difficult conversations), as well as a mutual respect, admiration and desire for the other to feel happy and seen.

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Being happily married requires both people to exercise deep trust and remain patient with one another. It requires not only listening, but truly hearing what the other person says and feels. It also means taking time to acknowledge our own faults, and to continue striving toward being a better version of ourselves so we can keep showing up for our partner in meaningful ways.

The Best Tips for a Happy Marriage, Hands-Down

We spoke with several relationship experts, including a psychiatrist and licensed counselors and therapists, who have worked with many couples over their careers. Through their work, they’ve been able to pinpoint some of the key steps to a happy marriage.

1. Make Your Relationship Your #1 Priority

Above anything else—work, friendships, hobbies—your relationship must always claim the number one spot in your priority list. “This simple but all-inclusive idea protects the two of you from the outside world and becomes a social contract between the two of you to serve each other above and beyond all else,” says Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT.

“That does not mean that your work, children or others are given short shrift. This principle of putting the relationship first protects the two of you from each other and ensures a union that can last a lifetime.”

2. Get Reallyyy Great at Communicating

You’ve likely heard this advice a million times—but have you processed what it truly means? It doesn’t simply imply talking; but involves hearing, processing and conveying our thoughts in a way that’s healthy, helpful and conducive. Yes, this can be difficult, particularly in challenging conversations or scenarios where one person is feeling hurt or unseen.

“Learn how to express your dissatisfaction, frustration or downright anger in a way that can lead to a solution,” urges Naomi Angoff Chedd, LMHC. “The point is not to make your spouse feel bad. The point is to fix what’s broken, to better understand and respond to each other’s needs and to enhance and enrich both your lives.”

3. Get to Know Yourself

Record scratch—wait, what? Yup, getting to know who you are can make a huge difference in the quality of your relationships, including the one with your life partner.

“Getting to know yourself is an important element of helping your partner get to know you,” explains Jaki Silver, LMSW. “I often hear patients expressing things like, ‘They just don’t get me,’ or ‘They don’t understand what I need.’ This can lead to distress and uncertainty of the durability of the relationship.”

When Silver hears this, she asks her patients to get specific: What’s a need of theirs that they want their partner to understand? And if they’re unable to communicate this clearly, it’s an indication they may not understand themselves or be able to share their feelings with their partner.

“It’s only through understanding ourselves, our values, our goals and our needs that we can begin to find ways to express them effectively,” Silver says. “This allows our partner to work with us in creating their role in meeting our needs and the development of solutions together.”

4. Keep Dating

Just because the ink is dried on your marriage certificate doesn’t mean the courting phase has to be over. Remaining curious about your partner and continuing to date them can make for a very happy marriage, according to experts.

“Ultimately, the decision to continue to date your partner shows your investment in them and helps keep the relationship alive,” explains Leanna Stockard, LMFT. “It makes them feel valued as a human being, and shows that you want to continue to grow and evolve with them through all of life’s changes [and] to continue to have fun adventures.”

5. Use a Filter

No, not that kind of filter! The kind of filter you use before saying whatever’s on your mind. As the saying goes, you can’t put squeezed toothpaste back in a tube, and you can’t take back words that have been spoken. Be intentional about the way you communicate versus being reactive or impulsive.

“It is inevitable that anger and resentment may surface at times—and many problems are worth arguing about,” says Chedd. “But you don’t have to say everything that is on your mind, especially when your emotions are at a fever pitch.”

“Wait 10 minutes or wait an hour. Even sleep on it,” Chedd suggests. “And if it still bothers you and seems worth a conversation, bring it up in a calm, kind-spirited [manner] rather than in an accusing way.”

6. Always Have Your Partner’s Back

“What’s mine is yours” is a common saying we associate with finances and belongings, but it also extends to our partner’s well-being and heart: You two are a partnership, so protect each other and always stand up for the other.

“You are first and foremost a survival team where you both protect each other from the slings and arrows of life. You are both staunch defenders of each other at all times,” says Dr. Tatkin. “Having each other’s backs—even when in disagreement with the other—is one of the strongest attachment values we can express.”

7. Try to Surprise Each Other

It’s so easy to fall into the monotony of daily routines—but where’s the fun in doing that for 50 years? Predictability is important to help us feel secure and comfortable, but also try to spice things up every once in a while to keep that spark ablaze.

“Bring home a big bouquet of flowers or a gigantic balloon for no reason. Take your spouse on a ‘mystery’ ride to a little restaurant or to look at a breathtaking view. Declare a mental health day and take the day off together,” Chedd suggests.

“Do whatever helps you connect and remember why you are right here, right now, with the right person.”

8. Learn Your Partner’s Love Language

The phrase “treat others the way you want to be treated,” is a golden standard, but what if that looked a bit different? Treating others the way they want to be treated is a big key to a happy marriage. You can do that by understanding what your partner’s love language is.

“You may realize that the way you are showing your partner that you love and care about them is not resonating with your partner the way you are intending,” Stockard says.

“Learning how to speak each other’s love languages helps you realize signs for compassion and caring that we may have otherwise missed, or that we did not realize had a much deeper meaning than what we believed at the time.”

Be it through emotional intimacy, quality time or check-ins throughout the day, learn what specific acts of love and intimacy your partner needs to feel secure and—you guessed it—happy in your marriage.

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Description: MATZOBALL Shatters World Record for Largest Speed Dating Event

Austin Tang — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 00:57:02 +0000

Listen to an interview with Andrew Rudnick on Spreaker.

MATZOBALL hosting largest online speed dating event ever held

NEW YORK, New York – (December 17, 2020) – MATZOBALL has shattered the Guinness World Record for the largest speed dating event. The MATZOBALL Online, to be held on Christmas Eve 2020, already has 1154 people registered to participate, with many more expected to register before the event begins. The event starts at 9 p.m. on Christmas Eve and will be held virtually in 23 cities across five countries. The virtual record is the first for MATZOBALL, which has held the dating party annually since 1987.

“This event has been so well received,” explains Andrew Rudnick, from Mazel Events, LLC and founder of the MATZOBALL. “We are all excited that this will be the largest and most successful speed dating event the world has ever seen. Not only can people get an opportunity to meet their soul mate, but they can also be a fun part of making this historical record.”

The current largest speed dating event, according to Guinness World Records, took place in Dublin, Ireland, on February 14, 2019. The number of people who participated in the Valentine’s Day speed dating event was 964. The MATZOBALL Online speed dating event has already surpassed that number in terms of how many people have registered to take part. The number will continue to climb as more people register each day leading up to and on the event day.

Each year, MATZOBALL holds its famous Jewish singles holiday party, giving people a chance to meet others. Some people have met for just that one fun-filled night, while others have developed long-lasting romantic relationships and friendships. Each year, there are over 400,000 people who attend the MATZOBALL holiday party.

This year, due to the pandemic, the event will be held online using special technology that will allow thousands of people to engage in a speed dating event at one time. While the speed dating event will be held online, participants are encouraged to still dress up to put forth their best image. The event will feature Regional Video Speed Dating, which will include pre-screened eligible singles. All of the speed dates will be held in a one-on-one setting.

The MATZOBALL Online will be broken down by region and age range. Each person who registers for the speed dating will get a minimum of 20-30, 5-minute dates. During that time, they will have the opportunity to choose whom they felt they had a connection with. When there is a mutual connection shared, the two people will be notified via email 15 minutes after the event ends. This will give them an opportunity to explore the connection more.

Tickets to the event are $35, plus a $5 processing fee per person for the Christmas Eve event, and $55, plus a $5 processing fee for the professional’s speed dating event on Christmas Day. A combination ticket to participate in both events can be purchased for $75, plus a $5 processing fee. Age ranges people can choose from are 21-27, 28-35, 36-49, and 50+. MATZOBALL will also be hosting a LGBTQ Jewish speed dating event on December 24, 2020, at 9 p.m. Space is limited, and tickets are expected to sell out. Tickets are $35, plus a $5 processing fee.

The regional areas where the event will be taking place include:

• Atlanta

• Boca/Delray Beach

• Boston

• Chicago

• Dallas

• Los Angeles

• Miami

• New York

• Philadelphia

• San Diego

• San Francisco

• Washington DC

• Seattle

• Denver

• Orlando

• Phoenix

• Cleveland

• Montreal

• Toronto

• London

• Sydney

• Tel Aviv

• Melbourne

“We are thrilled to have beaten the record for the largest speed dating event,” adds Rudnick. “We look forward to the event taking place and helping many Jewish singles come together. This is one event you don’t want to miss and this year you don’t even have to leave home to join in!”

Those who purchase a ticket to the hottest virtual party will receive a unique log-in link 24 hours before the event. They will be able to narrow their search by choosing their age and regional preferences. The event will also use fast match technology for those who feel they made a connection with someone. There will be an additional online speed dating event for professionals held on Christmas Day at 3 pm. Space for this event is limited. For complete city information, ticket options and pricing, to purchase tickets, visit the website at: https://matzoball.org. Tickets for the LGBTQ MATZOBALL event can be purchased at: https://matzoball.ticketspice.com/lgbtq-32-45.

About MATZOBALL MATZOBALL is a yearly huge party for Jewish singles that is held every December 24th. Since the first official event of its kind in 1987, the event has been held in select cities around the nation. There have been over 400,000 people attending and it has generated over $15 million in revenue. MATZOBALL was founded by Andrew Rudnick, owner of Mazel Events, LLC. To learn more about MATZOBALL, visit the site: https://matzoball.org.

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Source: Guinness World Records. Largest speed dating event. https://www.guinnessworldrecords.com/world-records/largest-speed-dating-event#:~:text=The%20largest%20speed%20dating%20event,Ireland%2C%20on%2014%20February%202019

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WHY SPRING IS THE TIME FOR LOVE

admin — Thu, 26 May 2016 18:09:48 +0000

TALK TO RENOWNED RELATIONSHIP EXPERT, SOCIOLOGIST &SEXOLOGIST PEPPER SCHWARTZ, PhD.

NEW RESEARCH ON MODERN LOVE
WITH THE HOST OF THE HIT SHOW
‘MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT’

One of the Nation’s Top Relationship Experts Shares an AVVO Study that Explains How Americans Feel about Marriage, Divorce & Relationships

When it comes to relationships and modern love, Pepper Schwartz, PhD., is one of the top experts in the nation. She’s best known as the Co-Host of the unique and top-rated show MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT, but is also the author of 25 books on relationships. She is truly recognized as one of the premiere experts on dating in today’s society. In our contemporary world, relationships are constantly changing with internet dating sites, marriage and divorce. So with spring and love in the air, Dr. Schwartz is ready to discuss the fascinating findings in a new AVVO Relationship Study that provides some interesting and often surprising information about the way people feel about relationships. From the 1st anniversary of the Supreme Court’s ruling on Gay Marriage to Millennial and ‘Grey Love’ viewpoints on modern love. Your internet subscribers will find the topic and the information both timely and educational.

LINK TO THE FULL STUDY

http://marketing-assets.avvo.com/uploads/sites/3/2016/05/Avvo-Relationship-Study_Final-Research-Report.pdf?_ga=1.46670244.224871863.1461005048

The Ball On Dec 24 – The Nation’s Biggest Jewish Singles Event

Alexandra — Thu, 24 Dec 2015 03:26:04 +0000

For more information on The Ball: http://www.letmypeoplego.com/theball.html

Since 1995, we’ve sponsored the Nation’s Biggest Jewish Singles Events. The Ball, our annual Christmas Eve party, is the premier Jewish Singles event in both NYC and LA and is attended by 3,000+ Jewish Singles annually in New York City alone!

In addition to The Ball, LetMyPeopleGo.com Jewish Singles sponsors cocktail parties, intimate gatherings, and large holiday events throughout the year. We also offer Jewish travel opportunities.

Why are our events so popular?

Because our events are geared to specific age groups (translation: women, no more men your father’s age hitting on you!).
Because we reserve locations exclusively for our young single Jewish crowd and choose only the hippest venues.
Because we get the best DJs (and sometimes live bands) for our club events.
Because while the music is great to dance to, we make sure that it is never so loud that you cannot talk.

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