Touchstones To Love April, 2008 Creating Healing and Peace — The Zen Cook: Nourishing Our Relationships — What’s New? The History of Last Night’s Dream — Couples in Conflict (How to Get from I to We) — Exercise of The Month – Be A Fool for Love — A New Way To Feed The Hungry: Project Oatmeal — Question and Answer — Why Men Leave — Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships) — The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living) Greetings! Here we are in the fullness of spring, the brief months when the world blossoms in all kinds of unexpected ways. It is a time of freshness and new possibilities, both for the earth and for our lives. What better time to take a new look at the way we are in relationships, and open up to new possibilities for being together and finding true meaning in our lives. This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn the simple laws of love and how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining Eastern and Western wisdom, we discover easy, enjoyable steps to take which help make our relationships all we want them to be and allow us to live life to the brim. The Zen Cook: Nourishing Our Relationships “To care for things makes the whole world come to life.” Uchiyama Roshi It’s delicious to feel well nourished in relationships. There’s a yearning and hunger we bring to our partners for all kinds of food: warmth, kindness, appreciation, time spent together. However, when food is not forthcoming or not enough, some will do anything to get fed. In order to understand the true workings of relationships, we must understand the real process of nourishment – of cooking and being fed. Right from the moment we are born, we connect being fed with being loved. When we cry, mother comes and feeds us and we feel safe and cared for. If the food we need is withheld for too long, we believe she doesn’t love us, or is withholding food to punish. This pattern can continue throughout an entire life. In some cases one person consistently plays the role of the feeder and other the role of the one being fed. Some withhold love so their partner will do what they want of them. Others feed their partners on demand. Sex is often used in this fashion, providing a sense of being loved, wanted, cared for and nourished. When it is withheld or rationed out, the hungry partner feels devastated. Most are not aware of the many kinds of food the universe abundantly provides. As in childhood, they become fixated on one person, who they see as their sole source of well-being. The first thing to notice is the intense orientation towards receiving. The feeling is that in order to feel full and nourished we must be fed. This is the idea of the infant – feed me and all will be well. We must be aware of all kinds of food, emotional, mental and spiritual that are needed in a complete relationship. Stop a moment and examine exactly what kind of food you are consuming in your relationship – is it healthy, is it food our system can digest? Although fast food may taste good and initially fill us up, it can have bad side effects. The same is true in relationships. Although what we get from our partner is initially hot and spicy it can cause heartburn later on. And, we can eat all day, but if we do not taste and digest what we are eating, we will never receive the nourishment we need. In some cases, we spend all our time wanting to change our partners. There may be much that is wonderful about them, but still we’re hungering for more. It is as though all the time we were with an apple tree which was giving us wonderful apples, while we’re longing for pears. Rather than walk down the street to the pear tree, we rail against the fine apple tree, which could not produce a pear, no matter how hard it tried. You will never turn an apple tree into a pear tree. Some of us are simply addicted to being dissatisfied. But in order to live a life of being in love, we must learn to take what is given and offer thanks in return. If we spend all our time wanting to change the person, rejecting their essential qualities, not wanting or valuing what they basically give, this is a sure fire recipe for unhappiness. Are we able to absorb what is beautiful and healthy in the relationship and by-pass that which is not valuable? It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.It is one thing to learn how to find the right food, enjoy and absorb it, but, beyond that, in order to receive all the nourishment we have ever needed, we must learn how to become the cook – how to nourish and feed others. Feeding Others We Are Fed In Zen practice the cook is one of the most important jobs. A Zen cook learns how to appreciate the needs of others, and being willing to completely fill them, on time. Rather than compulsively focus on her own hunger, she naturally becomes aware of the needs of others. As she does this, a strange thing happens, her own hunger completely fades away. Feeding others, we are fed ourselves. We are able to taste life (and people) as they are given. Our relationships turn around 180 degrees. It no longer becomes a question of what the other is or isn’t giving. It’s a question of what can be offered to him or to her. As we place our attention upon the needs of others and find ways of giving to them, not only does our hunger subside, but we begin to feel full. As this process continues, there is a deeper lesson to learn, that a never ending source of all kinds nourishment exists within us. We need never feel empty or hungry again. (This article is based upon Zen and the Art of Falling in Love), Simon and Schuster, by Dr Shoshanna). Zen and the Art of Falling in Love What’s New? The History of Last Night’s Dream Rodger Kamenetz, author of The Jew in the Lotus has written a wonderful, new book on discovering, enriching and changing yourself and your life through the mysterious practice of dreams. He offers a completely new look at what a dream is, why it appears, and how to value and interact with it. The author has gone on a deep journey himself, engaging different teachers of dreams. In the book, we go on the journey with him, learn what he has discovered and are clearly pointed to specific ways of responding to this rich world we enter night after night, and usually ignore. I wholeheartedly recommend this book as a way of not only engaging with your life more fully, but of opening new doors to your soul. It is vividly written, extremely accessible and touches upon the very thin line between our lives and dreams. Rodger Kamenetz Couples in Conflict (How to Get from I to We) Conflict is not necessarily something negative to reject or get over with at any cost. Instead it can be regarded as a fuel for growth, a reminder that it is time to take stock and make changes that may be long overdue. The Chinese word for crisis is opportunity. In the same manner, rather than hide from conflict, it is useful to welcome it, and see the gift it may be holding in its hand. In our on-going program, which is offered as workshops, seminars and individual couple counseling, couples receive a chance to take a new look at what is fuelling their upset and acquire the ability to join together as partners in change to re-vision their lives and relationships. In the process we let go of blame, judgment and condemnation, and learn to be fully committed to harnessing our focus upon that which is beneficial for all. The program is based upon eternal truths about relationships. You learn the 21 basic laws of successful relationships and how to practice them in your life. As this takes place, it is natural to become calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on. In this process couples often discover supririsng possibilities and become able to create a new blueprint for their relationship and life. For more information about the program contact Dr. Shoshanna at mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com The program is also available for mediators, attorneys and all those working with couples in conflict. Practice the 21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships Exercise of The Month – Be A Fool for Love Your life will flourish when it is filled with gratitude and giving. As we take time to be aware of and give thanks for the many blessings we receive our days are filled and joyful. Each month we offer another exercise to do, which is a way of giving thanks, and keeping a grateful mind alive. Today be a fool for love. Find something positive about everyone you meet and tell them. The biggest surprise we can give someone is to completely accept the person just as he or she is. Usually, before we accept a person we want so many things to be changed. Today be a fool for love. Turn everything around. Acknowledge the good in everyone you meet all day long. Find something real to acknowledge. At the end of the day, you’ll be flying high and so will everyone else. Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life) A New Way To Feed The Hungry: Project Oatmeal In New York City alone, more than one million people are hungry, including nearly 350,000 children and more than 140,000 senior citizens. there are few better ways to help feed them than by providing oatmeal. At the top of the “most desired” food list, oatmeal is highly nutritious, light to transport (since it expands with water or milk), inexpensive and has a long shelf life. It is also a breakfast food, (often most desired), helps lower cholesterol and is healthy for children. “Project Oatmeal” helps provide oatmeal for NY’s only food rescue program, City Harvest, to distribute to its contacts at more than 600 emergency food shelters throughout the five boroughs of NYC. The food agencies then put that oatmeal directly into the hands of the hungry within a few days — sometimes within a few hours–of receiving it. Project Oatmeal has cut a deal with Krasdale Foods (in the Bronx ) to supply oatmeal at only $1.66 per 42 ounce cannister, which comes out to just 16 cents a meal. For a donation of just $1.66 you can provide over 10 meals immediately to help the hungry in NYC. Go to http://www.projectoatmeal.org to find out more. Find out more Question and Answer My husband of 22 years just told me that he has never loved me at all. All the years were a fraud and a hoax. Now, he wants out. I am totally shaken and bewildered. Not only will he be leaving, but he’ll be taking all my memories away with him too. How can I go on? Firstly, realize that whatever is going on with, whatever thunderstorm he is going through, it is affecting his entire perceptions, not only of the present but of the past. At a certain point in time, many men (and women as well) come to a critical juncture where they feel their lives are passing and something essential is missing that they must find. Unfortunately, many blame the emptiness they feel inside upon their spouses and marriages. However, it has many other causes, often to do with the lives they have been living and their relationship to their own inner selves. Don’t take on his reality. He is going through a crisis and needs time and space to get in touch with what is real and meaningful for him. Your memories are yours and no one can take them from you, if you don’t give them away. You may be facing the loss of an important relationship and that is very painful, but do not allow that to cause you to also lose yourself. It would be very helpful for you right now to find a professional to work on this with. This can become a time of growth for you as well. All good wishes. Why Men Leave After a relationship ends, whether it’s a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn’t have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don’t really understand what happened, what caused the man to go. In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men’s own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You’ll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others. Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again. Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life). http://www.livingbyzen.com In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On. Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e- book. Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work. Download the book now and enjoy. Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life) Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships) Discover the surprising truths about love that can save your relationship and make it all you want it to be. Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don’t know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives. Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship. In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You’ll see why it’s impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm. Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now? To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.com GIVE A GIFT Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including: Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet) Everyone Wins Mediation: “How To Get from I to We Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change – Dr. Shoshanna’s programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com Or, perhaps you’d like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna’s books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice. Get a copy of Save Your Relationship today. The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living) Melt Away Toxic Feelings With The Anger Diet Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked. This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being – anger. In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you’ll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you’ll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting. There’s no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset. The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself. Here are some quick Anger Busters, which can help us dissolve this toxic energy on the spot. They are based upon Dr Shoshanna’s book, The Anger Diet, (30 Days To Stress Free Living). Anger Busters For Everyday Life Speak kindly to someone who’s angry with you. If someone has a complaint against you, really stop and listen. Find 3 things you really like and respect about your opponent. Give someone you are upset with the benefit of the doubt. ) Stop trying to control the person you are angry with. Let them be who they are. If you are right in a dispute, give up being right (for that moment, or day). Let the other person keep his/her pride. If two people you know are in a fight, speak well of each one of them to the other. Put the other person ahead of yourself. (You do not to always be “first”) Do a forgiveness workout: Make a point of forgiving at least one person you haven’t yet forgiven everyday. Ask yourself, “How much suffering is enough?” Am I willing to feel good today? Remember:We Are Not Hurt By What People Say and Do. (It’s our reactions that hurt us) Anger Tells Us Lies Anger Can Become An Addiction We Can Choose Our Responses The Best Way to Defend Yourself Against Anger Is To Feel Good About Yourself Think About What You Can Give, Not Get What We See In Others, We Bring Out In Them You Cannot Be Insulted, If You Do Not Take It As An Insult Being Healthy and Loving is More Important Than Being Right When We Identify Ourselves As Victims, We Attract Victimizers When We Expect Something, We Draw It To Ourselves We Can Change The Whole Course of Our Lives By Changing Our Attitude Towards It “May all beings have happiness and the courses of happiness” Melt Away Toxic Feelings On The Anger Diet In some cases, we spend all our time wanting to change our partners. There may be much that is wonderful about them, but still we’re hungering for more. It is as though all the time we were with an apple tree which was giving us wonderful apples, while we’re longing for pears. Rather than walk down the street to the pear tree, we rail against the fine apple tree, which could not produce a pear, no matter how hard it tried. You will never turn an apple tree into a pear tree. Some of us are simply addicted to being dissatisfied. But in order to live a life of being in love, we must learn to take what is given and offer thanks in return. If we spend all our time wanting to change the person, rejecting their essential qualities, not wanting or valuing what they basically give, this is a sure fire recipe for unhappiness. Are we able to absorb what is beautiful and healthy in the relationship and by-pass that which is not valuable? It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.It is one thing to learn how to find the right food, enjoy and absorb it, but, beyond that, in order to receive all the nourishment we have ever needed, we must learn how to become the cook – how to nourish and feed others. Feeding Others We Are Fed In Zen practice the cook is one of the most important jobs. A Zen cook learns how to appreciate the needs of others, and being willing to completely fill them, on time. Rather than compulsively focus on her own hunger, she naturally becomes aware of the needs of others. As she does this, a strange thing happens, her own hunger completely fades away. Feeding others, we are fed ourselves. We are able to taste life (and people) as they are given. Our relationships turn around 180 degrees. It no longer becomes a question of what the other is or isn’t giving. It’s a question of what can be offered to him or to her. As we place our attention upon the needs of others and find ways of giving to them, not only does our hunger subside, but we begin to feel full. As this process continues, there is a deeper lesson to learn, that a never ending source of all kinds nourishment exists within us. We need never feel empty or hungry again. (This article is based upon Zen and the Art of Falling in Love), Simon and Schuster, by Dr Shoshanna). Zen and the Art of Falling in Love What’s New? The History of Last Night’s Dream ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Rodger Kamenetz, author of The Jew in the Lotus has written a wonderful, new book on discovering, enriching and changing yourself and your life through the mysterious practice of dreams. He offers a completely new look at what a dream is, why it appears, and how to value and interact with it. The author has gone on a deep journey himself, engaging different teachers of dreams. In the book, we go on the journey with him, learn what he has discovered and are clearly pointed to specific ways of responding to this rich world we enter night after night, and usually ignore. I wholeheartedly recommend this book as a way of not only engaging with your life more fully, but of opening new doors to your soul. It is vividly written, extremely accessible and touches upon the very thin line between our lives and dreams. Rodger Kamenetz Couples in Conflict (How to Get from I to We) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Conflict is not necessarily something negative to reject or get over with at any cost. Instead it can be regarded as a fuel for growth, a reminder that it is time to take stock and make changes that may be long overdue. The Chinese word for crisis is opportunity. In the same manner, rather than hide from conflict, it is useful to welcome it, and see the gift it may be holding in its hand. In our on-going program, which is offered as workshops, seminars and individual couple counseling, couples receive a chance to take a new look at what is fuelling their upset and acquire the ability to join together as partners in change to re-vision their lives and relationships. In the process we let go of blame, judgment and condemnation, and learn to be fully committed to harnessing our focus upon that which is beneficial for all. The program is based upon eternal truths about relationships. You learn the 21 basic laws of successful relationships and how to practice them in your life. As this takes place, it is natural to become calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on. In this process couples often discover supririsng possibilities and become able to create a new blueprint for their relationship and life. For more information about the program contact Dr. Shoshanna at mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com The program is also available for mediators, attorneys and all those working with couples in conflict. Practice the 21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships Exercise of The Month – Be A Fool for Love ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Your life will flourish when it is filled with gratitude and giving. As we take time to be aware of and give thanks for the many blessings we receive our days are filled and joyful. Each month we offer another exercise to do, which is a way of giving thanks, and keeping a grateful mind alive. Today be a fool for love. Find something positive about everyone you meet and tell them. The biggest surprise we can give someone is to completely accept the person just as he or she is. Usually, before we accept a person we want so many things to be changed. Today be a fool for love. Turn everything around. Acknowledge the good in everyone you meet all day long. Find something real to acknowledge. At the end of the day, you’ll be flying high and so will everyone else. Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life) A New Way To Feed The Hungry: Project Oatmeal ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ In New York City alone, more than one million people are hungry, including nearly 350,000 children and more than 140,000 senior citizens. there are few better ways to help feed them than by providing oatmeal. At the top of the “most desired” food list, oatmeal is highly nutritious, light to transport (since it expands with water or milk), inexpensive and has a long shelf life. It is also a breakfast food, (often most desired), helps lower cholesterol and is healthy for children. “Project Oatmeal” helps provide oatmeal for NY’s only food rescue program, City Harvest, to distribute to its contacts at more than 600 emergency food shelters throughout the five boroughs of NYC. The food agencies then put that oatmeal directly into the hands of the hungry within a few days — sometimes within a few hours–of receiving it. Project Oatmeal has cut a deal with Krasdale Foods (in the Bronx ) to supply oatmeal at only $1.66 per 42 ounce cannister, which comes out to just 16 cents a meal. For a donation of just $1.66 you can provide over 10 meals immediately to help the hungry in NYC. Go to http://www.projectoatmeal.org to find out more. Find out more Question and Answer ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband of 22 years just told me that he has never loved me at all. All the years were a fraud and a hoax. Now, he wants out. I am totally shaken and bewildered. Not only will he be leaving, but he’ll be taking all my memories away with him too. How can I go on? Firstly, realize that whatever is going on with, whatever thunderstorm he is going through, it is affecting his entire perceptions, not only of the present but of the past. At a certain point in time, many men (and women as well) come to a critical juncture where they feel their lives are passing and something essential is missing that they must find. Unfortunately, many blame the emptiness they feel inside upon their spouses and marriages. However, it has many other causes, often to do with the lives they have been living and their relationship to their own inner selves. Don’t take on his reality. He is going through a crisis and needs time and space to get in touch with what is real and meaningful for him. Your memories are yours and no one can take them from you, if you don’t give them away. You may be facing the loss of an important relationship and that is very painful, but do not allow that to cause you to also lose yourself. It would be very helpful for you right now to find a professional to work on this with. This can become a time of growth for you as well. All good wishes. Why Men Leave ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ After a relationship ends, whether it’s a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn’t have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don’t really understand what happened, what caused the man to go. In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men’s own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You’ll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others. Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again. Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life). http://www.livingbyzen.com www.livingbyzen.com In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On. Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e- book. Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work. Download the book now and enjoy. Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life) Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Discover the surprising truths about love that can save your relationship and make it all you want it to be. Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don’t know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives. Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship. In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You’ll see why it’s impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm. Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now? To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.com GIVE A GIFT Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including: Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet) Everyone Wins Mediation: “How To Get from I to We Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change – Dr. Shoshanna’s programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com Or, perhaps you’d like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna’s books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice. Get a copy of Save Your Relationship today. The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Melt Away Toxic Feelings With The Anger Diet Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked. This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being – anger. In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you’ll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you’ll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting. There’s no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset. The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself. Here are some quick Anger Busters, which can help us dissolve this toxic energy on the spot. They are based upon Dr Shoshanna’s book, The Anger Diet, (30 Days To Stress Free Living). Anger Busters For Everyday Life Speak kindly to someone who’s angry with you. If someone has a complaint against you, really stop and listen. Find 3 things you really like and respect about your opponent. Give someone you are upset with the benefit of the doubt. ) Stop trying to control the person you are angry with. Let them be who they are. If you are right in a dispute, give up being right (for that moment, or day). Let the other person keep his/her pride. If two people you know are in a fight, speak well of each one of them to the other. Put the other person ahead of yourself. (You do not to always be “first”) Do a forgiveness workout: Make a point of forgiving at least one person you haven’t yet forgiven everyday. Ask yourself, “How much suffering is enough?” Am I willing to feel good today? Remember:We Are Not Hurt By What People Say and Do. (It’s our reactions that hurt us) Anger Tells Us Lies Anger Can Become An Addiction We Can Choose Our Responses The Best Way to Defend Yourself Against Anger Is To Feel Good About Yourself Think About What You Can Give, Not Get What We See In Others, We Bring Out In Them You Cannot Be Insulted, If You Do Not Take It As An Insult Being Healthy and Loving is More Important Than Being Right When We Identify Ourselves As Victims, We Attract Victimizers When We Expect Something, We Draw It To Ourselves We Can Change The Whole Course of Our Lives By Changing Our Attitude Towards It “May all beings have happiness and the courses of happiness” Melt Away Toxic Feelings On The Anger Diet?
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