A New Year Brings New Hope for Finding Love

?Relationship Expert Gives Tips on How to “Come as You Are” to Find Love With the New Year comes renewed hope that we can find love. However, many people who have not found love believe that they need to change in order to find that long-term relationship. Not so, says relationship expert, Dr. Helen Fisher, who has advice on how to “come as you are” when beginning your search for love.Dr. Fisher knows there are many forces that play a role in who we fall in love with and that timing and proximity play crucial roles in where and when we meet our mate. And, the past decade has seen many changes to the current attitudes and behaviors of dating – from the rules of attraction to views on premarital sex.Being a scientist Dr. Fisher also believes strongly in body chemistry, chemistry that scientists now believe are associated with specific aspects of temperament and personality. And, that there are 4 main personality types: the Explorer, the Builder, the Negotiator and the Director. Even though we are all unique discovering and not changing which personality type you are and keeping true to your values will help you find long-lasting love.Dr. Helen Fisher, Research Professor and member of the Center for Human Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University, is writing a book on mate choice: why you fall in love with one person rather than another. The book stems from her current work as Chief Scientific Advisor to the Internet site, Chemistry.com, a relationship site she designed with Match.com for men and women interested in forming long term relationships.