Its’ A New Day With Dr Shoshanna October 2008

How To Be Calm, Balanced And Positive — Discover The Positive Truth About Life’s Challenges — What’s New? Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) — What’s Going On! News! Dr. Shoshanna’s Radio Show: It’s A New Day With Dr Shoshanna — Dr Shoshanna’s Schedule — A New Way To Feed The Hungry: Project Oatmeal — Question and Answer — Why Men Leave — Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships) — The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living) We are excited to let you know that we are re-naming our newsletter to It’s A New Day With Dr Shoshanna. Dr Shoshanna has just received her own radio show, which will start airing on October 15th, with the same name, It’s A New Day With Dr. Shoshanna. (More about it in the newsletter). This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn the simple laws of love, how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining Eastern and Western teachings and practices, it will also offer psychological, spiritual and practical wisdom on handling all kinds of upset constructively so that everyday can be a truly new day for you. Discover The Positive Truth About Life’s Challenges ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ When rough times come, each of us has an intuition of the best way to handle the stress we feel. Rather than listen to all the catastrophic predictions, we stop and first turn within for wisdom and guidance. Implicitly we are asking, is there a way of seeing things differently? And, of course, there always is. Rather than respond automatically, we are stopping for a moment and discovering a way of looking at the world through fresh eyes. As we do this, not only do we calm down, but often discover unexpected resources we never thought we had. We do not try to analyze, or explain what is going on. Rather than try to control our experience, we learn to make friends with it, let it instruct us and be our guide. Take a deep breath. Put down fantasies, hopes, expectations for a moment. Just simply learn to be where you are. Sit still without moving, and take in all that is going on now. Don’t judge it, hate it, push it away. Be with everything, just as it is. Including yourself. Here are some more steps in the process that will put the situation in its widest perspective. Pointer 1 – Stop Looking For A Quick Fix A great danger in our lives is looking for a quick fix, believing there are all kinds of wise ones around who have the answers for our lives. That is not helpful right now. As we say in Zen, “Don’t put a head on your head. What’s wrong with your own, anyway?” This is the time to develop patience, and to learn to live with things as they are. Find the good in everything that happens. Look and see what you are learning from this, how this situation is helping you grow. Pointer 2 – Give Up Unnecessary Pressure Most of the time we create all kinds of demands on ourselves and others. We measure our progress, compare ourselves to others, judge ourselves relentlessly. Let’s stop all this for a minute. Now, just focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete moment brings the next. When we are totally focused and mindful of where we are now, we are not lost in dreams, expectations and anguish. The path is made by walking. Pointer 3 – Get In Touch With All You Are Receiving Instead of focusing upon what you have lost or are losing, get in touch with all you are receiving, moment by moment, day by day. Write it down. Acknowledge it. Spend some time giving thanks. Give thanks personally, write a note, make a call. Fill your consciousness with appreciation and gratitude. Pointer 4 – Become Aware of All You Have to Give Others Rather than focus upon your losses, focus upon what you have to give, what others may need from you and how you can be of help. When you think of someone, take a moment to ask within, “how may I serve you?” When you spend time trying to help another, not only will you get in touch with your own inner strength and resources, but the very act of helping, you calm down as well. Pointer 5- Go Back To The Beginning Many are constantly seeking more and more, always exploring new territories, ideas, relationships. However, many rush forward without really knowing where they are going. Once they arrive, they quickly set a new destination and start rushing to it again. This is a good time to realize the value of less, of letting go of that which is unnecessary, simplifying your life. Our way is to return to the beginning. Stop, sit down, look within. Set a new destination for your life, one that involves a larger purpose. Remember where you came from, who you are, why you are and where we are all ultimately headed. Separate what you need from what you desire. Desires can keep us whirling in circles. Needs can usually be easily met. With this in mind a larger view of life will emerge. This larger view will support you, through all the temporary ups and downs. It will also help you remember to take care of yourself and others along the way. You will receive great satisfaction from doing so. (This article is based upon Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen), by Dr Shoshanna, http://www.jewishdarma.com Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) What’s New? Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ We are thrilled to announce the publication of the latest book by Dr. Shoshanna, Jewish Dharma (A Guide to The Practice of Judaism and Zen), and the ways in which they can heal your life. Jewish Dharma is the first guide to the authentic parctice of both Judaism and Zen. We see how each practice enriches, illuminates and challenges the other and how they provide keys to the personal struggles we face each day. Each chapter deals with different life issues, such as loneliness, relationships, conflict, finding peace and understanding and ways of healing suffering. The book includes personal narraitive, parables, quotations, discussion and specific exercises so the reader can integrate the material into their lives. A Jewish heart is warm, giving, devoted to family and friends; a Zen eye is fresh, direct, spontaneous and in the moment. These practices are like two wings of a bird; both are needed to be able to fly. Endorsements “…Brenda Shoshanna is creating a unique path. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has a foot in more than one world.” Rodger Kamenetz, author, The Jew in The Lotus and History of Last Night’s Dream Dr Brenda Shoshanna flies on two wings: A deep love of the Jewish faith and her Zen practice of 36 years. Her vision embraces both traditions with fidelity and beauty.” Robert Kennedy, S.J. Roshi, author of Zen Gifts to Christians and Zen Spirit, Christian Spirit “/..Anyone interested in finding deeper understanding and meaningful purpose in life will be rewarded by reading any one of Jewish Dharma’s pages.” Lama Surya Das, author of Awakening the Buddha Within and founder of Dzogchen Meditation Centers. “I couldn’t put Jewish Dharma down. ..a must read for anyone who wishes to explore Zen meditation and Jewish life.” Rabbi Marcia Prager, author of the Path of Blessing To Get A Copy of Jewish Dharma What’s Going On! News! Dr. Shoshanna’s Radio Show: It’s A New Day With Dr Shoshanna ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ We are thrilled to announce Dr. Shoshanna ‘s new radio show which starts on October 15th and will be recorded live Wednesdays 2-3 p.m Progressive Radio Network. Tune In! http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com Call in with your questions and comments: – 1-888- 873-4643 Show will be archived An inspirationa, educational, lively show will provide guidance on dealing with all life issues so that each day can really be new and fresh To Find Out More Dr Shoshanna’s Schedule ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dr Shoshanna will be giving Reading and signing of Jewish Dharma Barnes and Noble in Park Slope on Thursday night, October 16, 2008. 267 7 Avenue 7 p.m. Workshop on Jewish Dharma 92 St. Y, in Tribecca Wednesday, October 29th. 200 Hudson Street, NY For details, contact Dr. Shoshanna at mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com Dr. Shoshanna is a psychologist, author and speaker – her work integrates East and West in finding psychological, spiritual and practical guidance in making our lives all they can become. GIVE A GIFT Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including: Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet) Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) Relationships as Spiritual Practice (A New Look at Love) Making Peace: Forgiveness and Reconciliation Jewish and Zen Ways of Healing Suffering The Perfect Person: Who Are They? Dr. Shoshanna’s programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com Or, perhaps you’d like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna’s books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice. Find Out More A New Way To Feed The Hungry: Project Oatmeal ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Your life will flourish when it is filled with gratitude and giving. As we take time to be aware of and give thanks for the many blessings we receive our days are filled and joyful. In New York City alone, more than one million people are hungry, including nearly 350,000 children and more than 140,000 senior citizens. there are few better ways to help feed them than by providing oatmeal. At the top of the “most desired” food list, oatmeal is highly nutritious, light to transport (since it expands with water or milk), inexpensive and has a long shelf life. It is also a breakfast food, (often most desired), helps lower cholesterol and is healthy for children. “Project Oatmeal” helps provide oatmeal for NY’s only food rescue program, City Harvest, to distribute to its contacts at more than 600 emergency food shelters throughout the five boroughs of NYC. The food agencies then put that oatmeal directly into the hands of the hungry within a few days — sometimes within a few hours–of receiving it. Project Oatmeal has cut a deal with Krasdale Foods (in the Bronx) to supply oatmeal at only $1.66 per 42 ounce cannister, which comes out to just 16 cents a meal. For a donation of just $1.66 you can provide over 10 meals immediately to help the hungry in NYC. Go to http://www.projectoatmeal.org to find out more. Find out more Question and Answer ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I have been searching and searching for the right mate and no one seems to fit the bill. After things start out well, I begin to see differences between us and obstacles. What to do? We all dream of finding the “perfect person”, someone who will fulfill our dreams and images and with whom we will be constantly happy. However, this is a fantasy which causes a great deal of the sorrow and pain we experience in relationships. People have many aspects to them, some fit with you and others do not. This is natural and inevitable. Sometimes you will be happy with a partner and other times obstacles will naturally arise. This does not mean the person is not a suitable partner. In order to create a fulfilling relationship, you must not view your partner as an object who exists to make you happy, but as someone to share your life journey with. The partner is there to help you grow, to learn what love is. They are there to teach you kindness, acceptance and how to give. Rather than look for the perfect person, become the person you are looking for. Focus upon your own growth, warmth, kindness and generosity. As you grow in love, you will naturally attract the right person to you, learn how to deal with obstacles and build a relationship that is healthy and fulfilling. Why Men Leave ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ After a relationship ends, whether it’s a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn’t have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don’t really understand what happened, what caused the man to go. In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men’s own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You’ll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others. Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again. Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life). http://www.livingbyzen.com In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On. Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e- book. Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work. Download the book now and enjoy. Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life) Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Discover the surprising truths about love that can save your relationship and make it all you want it to be. Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don’t know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives. Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship. In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You’ll see why it’s impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm. Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now? To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.com GIVE A GIFT Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including: Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet) Everyone Wins Mediation: “How To Get from I to We Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change – Dr. Shoshanna’s programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com topspeaker@yahoo.com Or, perhaps you’d like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna’s books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice. Get a copy of Save Your Relationship today. The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Melt Away Toxic Feelings With The Anger Diet Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked. This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being – anger. In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you’ll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you’ll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting. There’s no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset. The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself. Melt Away Toxic Feelings On The Anger Diet?